Increase your orgasm potential
If you've lost the desire for sex, you're not alone. 40 per cent of women suffer from some degree of sexual dysfunction and many more women admit they don't regularly achieve orgasm. There can be medical or psychological reasons for orgasmic dysfunction and, if you're concerned, you should consult a GP. However, getting to know your own body will help you achieve orgasm more easily, both alone and with a partner.
There are four stages of arousal:
- Arousal/excitement
Women's nipples and clitoris swell
- Plateau
Pulse rate and breathing increases and the skin flushes
- Orgasm
Rhythmic contractions through body
- Resolution
Your body returns to normal
Many women have problems reaching the climax stage, but regular masturbation can increase your likelihood of orgasm.
Top orgasm tips
Relax
Set the mood by having a bath with essential oils like sandalwood or ylang ylang, renowned for their aphrodisiac qualities. Make sure you've got the house to yourself or are in a room with a lockable door where you won't be disturbed. You may want to have a glass of wine to help you get in the mood, but don't have too much; alcohol inhibits orgasmic function
Engage your mind
Women tend to have a more holistic approach to orgasm; the mind needs to be engaged as much as the body. Put on some music that you find sexy then start thinking erotic thoughts. You may want to remember a particularly arousing experience you've had. Alternatively, there's a plethora of erotica designed for women, like Black Lace books. You may find that a sexy video will help you get in the mood, too
Explore
Don't just go straight for your clitoris. Start by stroking your neck, breasts and anywhere else you enjoy being touched. As you get more aroused, move your hands lower down. Many women find stimulating the pubic mound arousing
